By Millicent Parker | October 23, 2017
“Physician heal thyself,” a reference from the Bible that people use for many reasons. Most of us have heard this phrase and many of us believe we should be able to heal ourselves of all issues. “I should be able to shake off depression or I should be able to stop being so anxious.” Parents sometimes think, “I am an adult, I should be able to communicate (effectively) with my child.”
In reality, nothing is farther from the truth. The physician cannot heal themselves, they cannot do it alone. When was the last time you heard of a surgeon performing surgery on themselves? They cannot and neither can we heal ourselves in isolation. We all need help or support sometimes. We need someone to listen without judgment. We need someone to support us when we are not sure of ourselves. Sometimes we just need a cheerleader.
We heal ourselves through willingness. We heal when we are willing to ask for help. When we are willing to be honest about where we are in our lives and how we got there. For some the healing starts when you are willing to let go of people, places or things that no longer serve you. For others, healing begins when you surrender to the process that you have been avoiding, be it going back to school to get that degree or cleaning up your credit, so you can get a house or start a business. Your healing starts when you stop trying to go it alone.
What can you do? Find a group to support you as you make changes in your life to be a healthier you or to accomplish a goal that you have set for yourself. If you cannot find a group in your area, start a group of supportive friends and encourage and motivate each other to move forward with the changes you desire to see in your life.
If groups are not for you find one person that you trust to be your accountability partner. The two of you can encourage each other and check in with each other on your progress. You each agree to support each other through setting and maintaining goals and life in general.
That one person could be a therapist as well. Someone trained to support others in life’s transitions. This is a person who provides a safe space for you to sort through issues, situations or concerns. A person you can trust to be there for you as long as you need them.
There is no cookie cutter way to make changes in your life. It is about what works for you.
These are just some of the many ways to start the healing of your life and you get to decide how it works and when it works, but you have to be willing to do the work. Physicians can bring about healing for themselves they just cannot do it by themselves.
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