The Practice of Patience During Change & Healing
By Renée Milner | October 23, 2015
Be Better, Be More Series. You've sat down and gotten to know yourself again. You take some time out each night to reflect on your day and your victories. And you've realized something: You are not where you want to be.
Next, it is important to realize that 'it's ok'. You've realized you need to change something in your life; whether it be your friends, location, or job. That's a huge step all in itself! Congratulate yourself.
Another thing you must do is be patient. Rome was not built in a day. Neither is your life. If you are trying to heal, move on, move forward, remove yourself from a situation; be patient with your self and appreciate the journey you are on.
"I am unhappy! I need change! I need progress! How do I stay patient??"
I'm glad you asked.
The answer is baby steps. Progress is progress, no matter how small. (Besides, you already document how you better yourself each day don't you?)
Anything can be overwhelming when you try to accomplish it in a rush. Remember to take things day by day. You can't fix yesterday and tomorrow isn't here yet.
Write down what needs to change. Your job? Your mental/physical health? Your friends? Write it down.
Now, write down what you visualize. Do you want to be happy and overcome your anxiety? Do you want a community that does not encourage self-destructive behaviors? Write it down. Make a vision board. It helps to see your goals and desires in front of you every day. See? Baby steps!
If you can, ask a close friend or family member to hold you accountable. Ask, "If I start feeling discouraged, or talk about giving up, bring it to my attention, ok?" Ask them to remind your to bring out your paper with your goals written on it. If they are a healthy support system they will honor your beliefs and goals.
I cannot tell you how to achieve each individual goal you have. But I can tell you to be patient and trust the process. You have already taken the biggest step: Acknowledging what you want to change. The rest is simply your journey to get there. Do not rush it. You will reflect one day on how the journey taught you so many things. Take every lesson and try to write those down too. The longer your journey, the more you learn!
Timing really is everything. If something seems to be taking a while, remember that maybe something greater is waiting for you. Maybe you didn't get the job you wanted. Maybe you thought the prescription your doctor gave you would make you feel better in a day. Be thankful for that! You will come to learn that what is not meant for you is not going to be given to. There is something greater meant for you. Healing, growth, and change are all worth the wait; you deserve it.
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